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A Tribute to my Mom

Barbara Wichansky, MSW
A Loving Tribute to my Mom

Life has to end. 

But my love for you, Mom, is eternal.

Mom, I will now see you in my dreams,
Mom, I will see you in my dreams,
Mom, I will now see you in my dreams,
Listen to you with my heart,
Listen to you with my heart,
Listen to you with my heart,
And ALWAYS adore you with my soul.
And ALWAYS adore you with my soul.
And ALWAYS adore you with my soul.
Remembering Barbara Wichansky (1944 - 2018)
Remembering Barbara Wichansky (1944 - 2018)

Barbara Wichansky, 73, of Freehold Township, passed away peacefully at CentraState Medical Center on August 16th, surrounded by the ones who loved her most.


Barbara grew up in Union, NJ. She attended Union High School, where she graduated with valedictorian honors. She attended Douglass College, the Womens College of Rutgers University on a four-year scholarship, followed by Rutgers Graduate School-New Brunswick earning an MSW (Masters of Social Work). Her career included the Children's Psychiatric Center, Eatontown, as a social worker; Raritan Bay Mental Health Center, Perth Amboy, as a principal psychiatric social worker; Kean College and Rutgers School of Social Work as an adjunct professor; a school social worker for the Princeton and Fair Haven, NJ regional school districts; and a vocational services rep for the Ocean County chapter of ARC. She also earned a license in marriage counseling.

Mom's official NJ Pageant contestant photo.

Barbara Wichansky, 73, of Freehold Township, passed away peacefully at CentraState Medical Center on August 16th, surrounded by the ones who loved her most.


Barbara grew up in Union, NJ. She attended Union High School, where she graduated with valedictorian honors. She attended Douglass College, the Womens College of Rutgers University on a four-year scholarship, followed by Rutgers Graduate School-New Brunswick earning an MSW (Masters of Social Work). Her career included the Children's Psychiatric Center, Eatontown, as a social worker; Raritan Bay Mental Health Center, Perth Amboy, as a principal psychiatric social worker; Kean College and Rutgers School of Social Work as an adjunct professor; a school social worker for the Princeton and Fair Haven, NJ regional school districts; and a volunteer for The Arc Ocean County. She also earned a license in marriage counseling.

In an era where inclusion was not yet a hallmark in education, Barbara was instrumental in working with teachers and parents to create a disability awareness program for students in her schools. She invited her 10-year-old son, Paul, then in fourth grade, to speak to her students. As Paul recalls, "After those assemblies, my mom and I would go for lunch.  I would ask her, 'Mom, how can I make the assembly better? What do you think I should do to improve them?'  Those are NEVER questions to ask your mother!!  Paul continues with these presentations 37 years later as a living legacy to his mom.


She took such joy in her children, Paul and Suzanne, and lived life through their eyes and dreams. She passed on to them a strong sense of pride, a devotion to family and friends, her gift of gab, and a true love of inspiring others who need confidence. Paul is a nationally-recognized motivational speaker; Suzanne is a school counselor adored by students, parents, and colleagues.

Mom's school faculty photo.

In an era where inclusion was not yet a hallmark in education, Barbara was instrumental in working with teachers and parents to create a disability awareness program for students in her schools. She invited her 10-year-old son, Paul, then in fourth grade, to speak to her students. As Paul recalls, "After those assemblies, my mom and I would go for lunch.  I would ask her, 'Mom, how can I make the assembly better? What do you think I should do to improve them?'  Those are NEVER questions to ask your mother!!  Paul continues with these presentations 37 years later as a living legacy to his mom.


She took such joy in her children, Paul and Suzanne, and lived life through their eyes and dreams. She passed on to them a strong sense of pride, a devotion to family and friends, her gift of gab, and a true love of inspiring others who need confidence. Paul is a nationally-recognized motivational speaker; Suzanne is a school counselor adored by students, parents, and colleagues.

Not only was Barbara a beautiful person on the inside who cared deeply about people, but also beautiful on the outside. She was the 1964 Rutgers Homecoming Queen; New Jersey College Queen, representing the state, which included an appearance on the nationally televised Ed Sullivan Show; and a contestant in the 1984 Mrs. New Jersey Pageant.


Barbara was an avid reader who also loved the beach, travel, Broadway shows, coffee and chocolate mint ice cream, and singing in her award-winning chorus group. The television show Golden Girls was also one of her favorites.

Mom as the 1964 Rutgers Homecoming Queen.

Not only was Barbara a beautiful person on the inside who cared deeply about people, but also beautiful on the outside. She was the 1964 Rutgers Homecoming Queen; New Jersey College Queen, representing the state, which included an appearance on the nationally televised Ed Sullivan Show; and a contestant in the 1984 Mrs. New Jersey Pageant.


Barbara was an avid reader who also loved the beach, travel, Broadway shows (including CATS), coffee and chocolate mint ice cream, and singing in her award-winning chorus group. The television show Golden Girls was also one of her favorites.

She leaves behind her beloved parents, the late Sidelle Schneider and Benjamin Cummins; her devoted husband Steven; two children, Paul and Suzanne (John) Pape of Gaithersburg, MD; a grandson Landon and step-granddaughter Taylor; and a brother, Dr. Charles (Sheila) Cummins, of Monmouth Beach.


Barbara was adored by all who knew her.

Mom, Dad, and Grandma at my college graduation.

She leaves behind her beloved parents, the late Sidelle Schneider and Benjamin Cummins; her devoted husband Steven; two children, Paul and Suzanne (John) Pape of Gaithersburg, MD; a grandson Landon and step-granddaughter Taylor; and a brother, Dr. Charles (Sheila) Cummins, of Monmouth Beach.


Barbara was adored by all who knew her.

Published in the Asbury Park Press on Aug. 19, 2018. Video tribute created September 1, 2018.
Published in the Asbury Park Press on Aug. 19, 2018. Video tribute created September 1, 2018.
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